The Journey To Ownership
What it means. How to get there. Requirements. What is involved.
There is always talk and fixation on ownership by many men in this findom femdom community so I wanted to create a blog that clarifies what it takes to be owned by me, the steps, the requirements and more. Ownership with me is never a given. It is earned.
Ownership Consideration Phase
Ownership consideration is a term I found fit for the starting phase of ownership and this begins at $1,000 total sent. This doesn’t have to be in one go, even though that would definitely make more sense for someone eager, but it must be within a reasonable respectful time frame. Without fuss. That is the moment I personally start to take a submissive seriously. It personally shows me initiative, desire, and the beginnings of real sacrifice. It is the baseline where my attention becomes intentional.
Make a mistake at any point during consideration, hesitate, dishonest, delay, disrespect, and I revoker your status.
A new goal will be set only if I am satisfied with your apology tributes. This goal will be higher and based on how you respond, actions afterwards I will decide when you will be permitted back into consideration. A failure pushes complete ownership threshold further out of reach. I really do not tolerate disrespect so this can lead to complete termination from my life.
True ownership, my ownership
So you have made it into consideration and now you are on the journey to full true ownership with me. This begins at $10,000.
This is not just for the amount, but because of what happens between $1,000 and $10,000. That space is where your transformation begins, let’s break it down. Between these two phases, you are within a structured evolution. I am not just watching how you send, I am watching how you carry yourself. For some this amount is nothing; others it is a lot, but I keep this standard consistent across the board. This amount is just the beginning.
Here are just a couple things I require and put subsmissives through in this phase.
Reflections submitted regularly. You will write about what you have learned from me, values, lifestyle, mindset. I want depth, no filter. You can read a couple of the reflections from my consideration subs when I first created this website click here.
Retention checks. I will randomly quiz you on things I have said, posted or told you. If you don’t remember or pick up on details, you are not paying attention and that matters.
Behaviour tracking. You will keep a journal or well-made log of your behaviour. This is usually custom curated but some of the most common things I have noticed are spending habits and impulses. I want self awareness.
Task obedience. I will assign small specific tasks whenever I deem. Sending a precise amount, dressing a certain way, responding within a time window (don’t worry I know your work schedule and am aware of that) How you complete them tells me a lot.
Controlled release protocol. Your orgasms and pleasure are no longer yours to decide. I will track how you respond to denied, delayed or permitted release. If you break protocol, we reset.
You wanted ownership right?
Here are a couple more common ones:
Gift curation and initiative. You will learn to send thoughtfully. Gifts that reflect your understanding of my tastes. I don’t need to spoon feed you, you will learn.
Financial restraint elsewhere. You will be demanded to cut back on non-essential spending that doesn’t serve. How you handle that tells me what kind of provider you are.
Emotional regulation under pressure. If I am cold, quiet or direct, do you spiral, lash out, beg? Or do you stay centered, respectful, and patient?
Private submission etiquette. How you message, address and present yourself should reflect subtlety and class. No mess.
Consistency, last but definitely not least, I am watching your consistency in everything. Your rhythm, your discipline, how serious you truly are.
Each stage is designed to rewire you and your submission, to unlearn entitled, reshape how you serve, and prove you are not just willing but worthy. Ownership with me isn’t just a title, it reflects discipline. A designed, sharpened and tested state of surrender. There are no shortcuts. No one is exempt. Every submissive is held to the same standard.
That is what makes it real. That is what makes it rare. That is what places you under my ownership.