Etiquette

What is Findom? What is Femdom?

Let’s start simple.

Findom stands for financial domination. It’s where submission is expressed through money, luxury, and financial gestures.

Femdom is female domination… the art of being in control. Emotionally, psychologically, energetically.

Some people like to separate them, as if Femdom is “softer” or somehow unrelated to money. It’s not. What I do is both. And it’s all real. My control is complete. And if your submission doesn’t include your wallet, your effort, your offerings… then it’s not submission. Findom is just one expression of my power. The money is symbolic. It reflects value, intention, presence and yes… it matters.

What is an Appreciation?

Most people call it a tribute. I don’t. I call it an Appreciation… because that’s exactly what it is. A mark of respect. A sign that you understand who I am and how you should show up. An Appreciation is your first offering. Your first “hello.” Not a message. Not a paragraph about your kinks. A gesture. One that says, “I see your worth. I want to prove I belong here.” This isn’t a negotiation. This is about alignment. If you’re serious about connecting with me… this is where it starts. It’s not about the price tag. It’s about intention, effort, and elegance. Don’t overthink it. Just get it right. Ownership, one off, session, or something undefined… it all begins here. I made a somewhat viral X post a while back, I want to put that here for you to read too.

Tributes serve as a submissive's verification and symbolize their respect for a superior being. They reflect their recognition of the effort we invest daily. It's a means to establish trust. Dommes don't request tributes because we avoid work, our work is ongoing. We engage in kink and fetish activities extensively, so why should we discuss them for free? The tribute requirement isn't about greed, it's about valuing the exchange of our time and expertise.

Appreciation Guidelines

Sending an Appreciation is easy. It should feel seamless. You’ll find all accepted payment methods HERE and they’ve been chosen to be secure, simple, and discreet. If you are unsure on where to start I would personally recommend sending flowers. Nothing speaks elegance like arriving with a bouquet. A real Appreciation is complete. No bits and pieces. No “testing the waters.” That’s not what I’m here for. One full, clear gesture. That’s how you enter this space. If you can’t do that, you’re not ready.

The Foundations of Devotion

This isn’t a free for all. You’re not just wandering into a DM and hoping for magic. Serving me is a privilege. If you’re even reading this, be grateful. Appreciation is just the first step. But if you don’t understand the foundations, you won’t get far. I expect you to have gratitude… say thank you. Mean it.  Respect… in your tone, in your timing, in how you carry yourself. Communication… don’t sit in silence and spiral. Ask if you’re unsure. Speak clearly. Be direct. Engagement.. don't lurk. Don’t coast. Be present and active, or leave. This is not a place for passive men. I expect awareness, presence, and standards.

Different Forms, Same Standard

Some of you want to be owned. Some want structure and rules. Some want moments… short, sharp, intoxicating. Others want to simply observe, serve, and disappear. There’s no right or wrong way to submit… but there is a standard. And every version of service begins the same way: Appreciation. If you can’t offer one, we have nothing to talk about.

Final Words

I built this world. You’re here because something in you knows you belong under me. Don’t waste that chance. Your presence isn’t impressive. Your hesitation doesn’t interest me. Your Appreciation is the only thing that starts the conversation. Show me who you are. Show me that you understand.

And if you don’t? Close this page.

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